Had telephone call today from Kay our social worker who was arranging our first interview / home visit.
Going to take place next tues which is earliest can both get time off work.
V nervous and hope will have time to clean with hen this weekend.
Also wrote note to myself in work notebook with at least three colleagues noticing
Tuesday 31 July 2012
Sunday 29 July 2012
The waiting game part one
Been nearly ten days since open evening - we sent back our 'still interested' form the next day and have had a letter with more handouts telling us we will be contacted in a few weeks to arrange an interview.
Meanwhile we've lined up all possible references and the family so they are prepared and ready to make any appointments. However slow this goes we don't want it to drag because our side wasn't available.
So now it's about a week since the letter and already the waiting is painful mostly because we know we can't speed along even if phoned everyday and generally made a nuisance of ourselves.
Now our friends and family know their initial reaction is interesting. The more some tell me not to give up hope for one of our own or it's early days could still happen if now focused on something else , the more convinced I am that we are doing the right thing - this isn't some poor substitute for a M/C gene pool, this or these adopted children are because we totally want to be able to share our life with a little person who would have less chance without us. We don't need to introduce another new life into the world, there are so many lost little souls who I am convinced with our patience and energy we'll be able to give them some hope, stability and love that will mean they aren't any longer held back by their start and instead can be whatever they like in the future.
Meanwhile we've lined up all possible references and the family so they are prepared and ready to make any appointments. However slow this goes we don't want it to drag because our side wasn't available.
So now it's about a week since the letter and already the waiting is painful mostly because we know we can't speed along even if phoned everyday and generally made a nuisance of ourselves.
Now our friends and family know their initial reaction is interesting. The more some tell me not to give up hope for one of our own or it's early days could still happen if now focused on something else , the more convinced I am that we are doing the right thing - this isn't some poor substitute for a M/C gene pool, this or these adopted children are because we totally want to be able to share our life with a little person who would have less chance without us. We don't need to introduce another new life into the world, there are so many lost little souls who I am convinced with our patience and energy we'll be able to give them some hope, stability and love that will mean they aren't any longer held back by their start and instead can be whatever they like in the future.
Friday 20 July 2012
July 2012 just starting out
On Tuesday M and I went to an open evening about becoming parents.
We've talked a lot about it and have had a plan of essentially 3 rounds of fertility drugs 1 Ivf 1 reversal 1 year of unprotected and then we start the adoption process which is where we are now.
It's going to take ages - at least - 18 months - and this blog is for our new child or children to read - so they can see we loved them long before we ever met them and that they have always been in our becoming pare nts plan.
We got the 'be my parent' child finder paper with our invite to the open evening. M just glanced at it as wisely doesn't want to imagine a life with those kiddies when it's unlikely they will ever live with us.I made the mistake of literally pouring over it - and not only want to invite as many kiddies as we can squeeze in to live with us but see their haunted eyes and broken smiles all the time . Didn't know seeing them and reading their profiles would have such an effect but do want to get them out of the system and into our warm loving stable home list in my head the good schools land ings friends after school clubs and patience and love we can give them . Am not going to look at anymore child finder magazines until we closer to approval
.The open evening was fine. The social workers very clear and case studies even clearer that this is the start of a long intrusive journey.
Was surprised m not worried that his evil ex j will be contacted and reassured him that maddie mum r will be fine as he worried relationship with her so short might be judged negatively - think so admirable that made no difference to his relationship with m could even be a plus point !
Both agreed we sticking to York as close to support and other adopting parents - was also pleased the other parents to be seemed to be people we could be friends with and they all local.
Waiting for our first home visit now.
We've talked a lot about it and have had a plan of essentially 3 rounds of fertility drugs 1 Ivf 1 reversal 1 year of unprotected and then we start the adoption process which is where we are now.
It's going to take ages - at least - 18 months - and this blog is for our new child or children to read - so they can see we loved them long before we ever met them and that they have always been in our becoming pare nts plan.
We got the 'be my parent' child finder paper with our invite to the open evening. M just glanced at it as wisely doesn't want to imagine a life with those kiddies when it's unlikely they will ever live with us.I made the mistake of literally pouring over it - and not only want to invite as many kiddies as we can squeeze in to live with us but see their haunted eyes and broken smiles all the time . Didn't know seeing them and reading their profiles would have such an effect but do want to get them out of the system and into our warm loving stable home list in my head the good schools land ings friends after school clubs and patience and love we can give them . Am not going to look at anymore child finder magazines until we closer to approval
.The open evening was fine. The social workers very clear and case studies even clearer that this is the start of a long intrusive journey.
Was surprised m not worried that his evil ex j will be contacted and reassured him that maddie mum r will be fine as he worried relationship with her so short might be judged negatively - think so admirable that made no difference to his relationship with m could even be a plus point !
Both agreed we sticking to York as close to support and other adopting parents - was also pleased the other parents to be seemed to be people we could be friends with and they all local.
Waiting for our first home visit now.
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