On Tuesday M and I went to an open evening about becoming parents.
We've talked a lot about it and have had a plan of essentially 3 rounds of fertility drugs 1 Ivf 1 reversal 1 year of unprotected and then we start the adoption process which is where we are now.
It's going to take ages - at least - 18 months - and this blog is for our new child or children to read - so they can see we loved them long before we ever met them and that they have always been in our becoming pare nts plan.
We got the 'be my parent' child finder paper with our invite to the open evening. M just glanced at it as wisely doesn't want to imagine a life with those kiddies when it's unlikely they will ever live with us.I made the mistake of literally pouring over it - and not only want to invite as many kiddies as we can squeeze in to live with us but see their haunted eyes and broken smiles all the time . Didn't know seeing them and reading their profiles would have such an effect but do want to get them out of the system and into our warm loving stable home list in my head the good schools land ings friends after school clubs and patience and love we can give them . Am not going to look at anymore child finder magazines until we closer to approval
.The open evening was fine. The social workers very clear and case studies even clearer that this is the start of a long intrusive journey.
Was surprised m not worried that his evil ex j will be contacted and reassured him that maddie mum r will be fine as he worried relationship with her so short might be judged negatively - think so admirable that made no difference to his relationship with m could even be a plus point !
Both agreed we sticking to York as close to support and other adopting parents - was also pleased the other parents to be seemed to be people we could be friends with and they all local.
Waiting for our first home visit now.
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